Three ways to uncover your own problems
A psychotherapist is trained to dig behind presenting problems by asking leading questions. I’ve learned to uncover the real no by looking at financial documents and asking pointed questions. But neither therapists nor I try to practice this technique on ourselves. How then can you uncover your own real problems? There are three ways.
First, you can always speak to a therapist or contact me if you have the money or inclination. I’m using the word therapist in a looser manner than it’s commonly applied. Continue reading
Three methods to become an expert
There are three ways you can become an expert and, in the process, help overcome your business problems. Each has its advantages and disadvantages.
The first way to become an expert is to receive some formal schooling or training. The advantage of this method of becoming an expert is that it provides you with an official endorsement: you’re getting a seal of approval. The disadvantage of pursuing such formal endorsement is that it’s time-consuming. In all honesty, such an approach is Continue reading
The shortcut to trust for business start-up
The keystone of my technique is a simple but very powerful truth: the shortcut to trust is caring.One of the feelings that develops over time and which naturally leads to trust is the sense that the other person cares for you and your well-being. That means more than having shared interests or similar beliefs. Caring represents a personal connection that transcends the reasons or circumstances that brought the two of you together. Caring is perceived as an emotional bond that goes far deeper than a shared mercenary interest.
Problem solving – one problem at a time
Hating your career is certainly problematic, but it’s a large general difficulty that encompasses a set of smaller more specific hurdles. You’re not Superman. You can’t go from the starting line to the finish tape in a single bound. Try to, and you’ll end up failing and frustrated. Instead, you need to break the race down and work at overcoming each individual hurdle. You need to divide that one giant no into a set of smaller nos.
The discipline of problem solving – Focus on facts
The third item on the checklist is to insure that each of your individual hurdles is framed rationally, not emotionally. All rational problems can be solved by applying logic and facts. Many emotional problems can’t be solved, only mitigated.
And some emotional problems can’t be solved at all. Thankfully, all business and financial problems can, in fact, be viewed rationally. Unfortunately, the same isn’t true for all personal problems. That’s why I tell people my approach can help them solve all Continue reading
The basic of salary problem
Most raise and salary problems, like job-hunting problems, are twins. First there’s the expectant side to the problem: generally a fear that threatens to keep you from taking an action, such as “they’re not going to give me any more money.” And second there’s the extant problem: an outright rejection, like “they said they won’t give me any more money.” However, unlike job-hunting problems, these twins are analogous. In fact, the secret to solving both sides of the dilemma is the same: expertise.
